The Double-Edged Sword: Breastfeeding and a Mother’s Mental Health

By Hafisat Ajibade Masud

The image is powerful: a mother cradling her newborn, smiling softly as she breastfeeds. It’s a portrait of pure bonding. But for many new moms, the reality is much more complex.

While breastfeeding can be a source of joy and connection, it can also trigger stress, anxiety, and feelings of inadequacy. The truth is that the relationship between breastfeeding and maternal mental health is not straightforward—it’s a two-way street where each profoundly affects the other.

Let’s explore this delicate balance.

The “Happy Hormone” Boost: The Positive Side

When breastfeeding works well, it can become a powerful ally for a mother’s emotional well-being.

1. The Power of Oxytocin
   The “love hormone” oxytocin is released during breastfeeding. It strengthens bonding, lowers stress, and creates a sense of calm—nature’s way of helping mothers feel connected to their babies.
2. A Sense of Achievement
   Many mothers feel deep pride in nourishing their child with their own body. This sense of accomplishment can be emotionally rewarding.
3. Convenience & Bonding Moments
   Beyond nutrition, the skin-to-skin contact and stillness of nursing provide grounding rituals—opportunities to pause, breathe, and connect.

 When the “Liquid Gold” Feels Heavy: The Challenges

 

Breastfeeding is not always a blissful experience. For some, it brings pressure, physical strain, and emotional turbulence.

1. The Tyranny of “Breast is Best”
   Well-meaning messages can weigh heavily. Struggles with supply or painful latching may leave mothers feeling guilty or inadequate.
2. Physical Exhaustion & Pain
   Cracked nipples, mastitis, and sleep interruptions drain energy. Many moms experience burnout and heightened anxiety.
3. Loss of Bodily Autonomy
   Constant demand can feel overwhelming, reducing identity to “just feeding.” This may fuel postpartum depression or anxiety.
4. The Heavy Mental Load
   Being the only one who can feed a baby can feel isolating. Many mothers feel tethered, with little chance for rest or self-care.

 The Vicious Cycle: Stress & Milk Supply

Mental health doesn’t just respond to breastfeeding challenges—it can cause them.

Stress raises cortisol, which blocks oxytocin release, making it harder for milk to flow. This creates a painful cycle:

1. Mom feels stressed about low supply.
2. Stress further reduces supply.
3. Fear and anxiety increase.
4. The cycle repeats.

Breaking this loop is essential for both mother and baby.